Some friends acquaintances, we have throughout our lives think a hug is always an appropriate response to “their friend” who is sad.
I honestly don’t really want to hug you, unless:
A) you are family and it’s expected (and I do it, but not because I want to)
B) you are someone I REALLY LOVE, like my small child, however, small child, once you get almost as tall as me or taller, all grown-up with your own opinions, and stuff….it makes the hug a bit harder….not impossible, but definitely harder to initiate.
C) It’s an online hug and we aren’t really touching, physically.
D) We are in a sexual relationship which is not only honest, but reciprocal in most every way.
E) An immediate family member or pet just passed away.
When I met my biological mom at the age of six, one of the first things she said to me was, “******** you don’t know how to hug!!!!!!”
I know, mommy.
I am the “awkward hugger”, a term I learned from my sister, Doody. I’m the one you go to hug and it turns into a dance….I’m always going in the wrong direction.